random thoughts on relationship issues, that i guessed never being taught by parents to their kids.
dunno about other parents, well, my mom never told me this. i have to figure it out my self. the only thing my mom ever said to me was masa blajaq jgn bercinta, jgn naik motor dgn lelaki ( seriously i think my parents feared that i will turn to minah rempit while growing up, aku sorg je TIDAK DIBENARKAN amek lesen motor), jgn dok gatai biaq org laki pegang tgn. ahahah..
which i think i follow most of it until now, i realized i never ride a bike with guys, masa blajaq mmg tk bercinta, uhmm.. on pegang tgn.. sorg je laki aku jln in public pegang tgn.. hihi.. skema gak aku sebenarnye kan.
so these are the things i learned by myself. u guys may have a different point of view. doesnt matter.
and if anybody stucks in this kind of thing, this would be my advice. ( okeh, u have to be advised though at the moment, i don’t have any real love life, so take the advice ot your own risk)
1) if you(girl) have a crush on your bestfriend (boy), no matter how handsome or kind he is, never confess. girls are never meant to confess anything. girls should only lead on watever flirt/fun u r having until he confess. ahaha.. then this would be a very happing ending eh.. be able to marry ur bestfren?
2) if a girl like a boy, she can make the first move. but only the first move. ( eg: ajak tgk wayang ke, lunch ke dinner ke) never confess. (again). and u need to see his response. if after few times, he is the one who keep asking you to go out with him, then u r lucky, if not, move on. u made ur move.
3) if obviously the guy is not into you, the easiest way to get over him is to totally ditch him. go cold turkey. this is serious. for your own benefit. sometimes, when u do that, he somehow realize, he misses you and will come crawling back for you. And if not, but he still wants to be your fren, he loves the frenship and watever not. just be selfish, say no. think only of ur own self. if you continue, the frienship will only benefit him, and u r at the losing end. not good!
4) after a breakup, no matter how hard you try to remain friends, it won’t work. (refer to point 3). u both need some time off. and if it is not a bad breakup, then after sometime, mebe u guys can start over back as normal friend. should not be a problem, even though my preference would be just maintain the relationship to acquantance level only.
5) if he never hold ur hands, or try it.. he’s not into u. ( eh nih kalau dia ustaz ke, hafiz quran ke mebe tak applicable). anak ustaz aku rase applicable lagi nih. ehehehe.. owh ade gak possibility dia gay.
6) guys really like to flirt with girls without realising the impact. be it online, sms or anything. so if you flirt back, just be ready with the consequences of him saying he doesnt do anything. as long as it never gets physical, guys would never feel guilty. i think guys draw the line there. all those sweet kata2 , is just words. none remembered. mebe because heir minds work graphically. so without action, they do not remember anything.
7) if you (girl) have a crush with you friend (boy), and never said anything. None of you try to proceed to a serious relationship, u can stay being friends for long. (eg : aku crush kat parid dulu2. aku tk pernah ckp, kami tk kapel. bleh ja kwn sampai la… ahahah.. sorry parid, aku pakai cth hg!)
8)guys choose girls base on physical. beauty from within never really mean anything to guys. cuma taste lelaki nih pelbagai.agak diverse disitu. so it just wouldnt matter how u look as long as he thinks u r pretty. 
so my point is, if he likes the specific type of girl, most of the time, he will get the kind of girl he wants la.. if putih, then putih la.. if chubby, then chubby la. no use of thinking he will accept u later. better he rejects now rather than after 12 years of marriage he realised he likes someone else who fit perfectly into his requirement.
9) the guy is into you, if he did any of the things below :
- he holds ur hand ( uhm.. aku rase aku tk jumpe lagi laa laki tak suka pon dia pegang2)
- he notice ur body , i mean any changes or what and made a comment/ask about it. ( eg : u got this scar after penggoreng ikan, small one. but he notice that and ask u)
- he calls u, i mean frequently. and if you want to cut short the conversation, he will try to lengthen it. ( eg : u said : eh ok la, bye, he said : eh kejap laa and brought other irrelevant matters)
- he ask you out ( eh nih mmg obvious sgt). ask u out as in tak pernah2 ajak kuar kan. so kalau he is already ur bestfren, refer to point 1.
- the way he looks at you. ( there is this one look, i can’t really describe it. ehehe.. so if u like him too, whenever he look at you that way.. hepi and duup dapp duupp dapp ok! kalau tk suke, mebe akan rase menyampah disitu. )
- ehehe.. nih aku nk tmbh saje je nk poyo.. he dive the ocean for you. ahahahah.. ( but again it didnt last)
seriously, guys are not worth all the trouble that girls like to put ourselves into, but then again, we can’t live without them. tak fun kan.
(demn, aku mmg tak buat kerje kat opis nih, mebe bleh start tulis buku)
I’ll post pictures later.