He’s not into you if he’s not asking you out… because if he likes you, he’ll ask you out!
i stumbled upon this book review( by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo) on the internet last night, and somehow i am intrigued to write about it.. because most of the times, we ladies, like to analyze the puzzling behaviour of men.. be it over the phone conversation or over cofee at the most hip and happening place in town… We even blog about all these, right??
and i think we have wasted our times becoz according to the books, Men are actually not a complicated creature, but they like us, women to think so.
Among the highlighted points that is interesting enough is:
excerpt:
…. Men are not complicated, although they’d like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages. The truth may be He’s just not that into you. Unfortunately guys are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman, “You’re not the one.” But their actions absolutely show how they feel……
huh.. so that’s it right?
to girls:
Don’t waste your time with guys who says the right words but don’t do the right moves.. becoz as quoted by one of my dearest friends, words is only words, and when it comes to guys, if they can say it to you, those precious words, most likely he’ll be saying it to another 20 girls? 
in a real life scenario, if he say he misses you, wanna be with you and yet never ask you out, or pick you up, or spent his money on you (i mean not all of his money, just sometime would be nice), then stop thinking of the positive side of him.. really.. stop giving him excuses.. As Mr. HeIsAlwaysRight has once said “lelaki nih mmg jahat”
i know girls can come up with all the explanation behind all the actions,
eg:
1)if he did not take any step further in your relationship, u r thinking that may be he doesn’t wanna destroy the friendship, right? Well, the truth is if a guy likes you, he will try and get you, he will not give a damn about the friendship.. guys are made not to overthink/overanalyze. If he does not make any move, then he thinks u r not worth it, in a nicer words, yes, he’ll appreciate the friendship more than he likes you! as simple as that.
2) If he doesn’t call u, it’s not that he doesn’t have the time. It is plainly straight that he does not have the desire to talk to you.
3) If he only missed call you, it’s not that he is saving the money to marry you.. it’s just that… huh.. i dunno the reason.. kalau sekali sekala mungkin boleh cakap kebetulan tader kredit.. but if it is most of the times.. how laa deyy?? He must be over confident that your wanted to talk to him more rather than he wanted to talk to you..
girlss, plisss move on, find the guy who will treat you right… and if you are lucky enough, he’ll say the right words as well but only to you, not to any other girl!! ( nih aku assume laki melayu aa: average lelaki melayu kan tak reti bermadah pujangga?? so kalau dpt yg nampak kasih sayangnye, tapi tak pandai buat ayat jiwang kire dah cukup bertuah laaaa..
:p tapi lelaki mat saleh/cina tak masuk dlm analisa.. aku tadak experience.. ah ah ah.. yg ada experience mungkin boleh comment?)
to guys:
correct me if i am wrong, becoz i’ll be delighted to know if it is otherwise, meaning that u guys REALLY REALLY have the valid reasons of only saying all the mushy-mushy words, and yet not doing any thing else. Please comment!! ( sekali lagi sebenarnya aku konpius, ada ke male reader aa blog nih??)
i would really like to know what is your excuses?? Or else i’ll assume that i am right? heh?
And one more thing, my advice to all the jejakas:
if you like a girl, i mean really like the girl, Please appreciate her!!! girls are known as a creature who can do anything for the one she really likes. Don’t take any advantage!!
if you don’t like the girl that much, i think the best way is doing what u guys great at, don’t show any affection.. She’ll understand it in times.. (Talk about cruel to be kind laa kan!! Rather that buat buat suke.. kang kesian kat pomwan yg tertipu!! isk, tapi jgn cakap direct tak suke, girl’s heart are known to be fragile!! )
Anyway, i hope this entry will wake myself and other girls who read this and give us the kick in the arse (that we need, huh!).. and realize the Truth that we have been trying to deny!! Stop wasting ur time. Again, MOVE ON! Give someone else a chance!
So ladies, cheer up. There will be someone right for you who will really be into you! ( yes.. to You, You and You..) In the mean time, we have each other, right??
Lastly, to myself:
Please don’t be stupid and fall for the guy who is obviously not into myself!!! Please keep my own feet on the ground!! Once bitten, twice shy??
p/s: did i sound like a bitter woman???
and my dearest blogiemate, ha.. nih aku dah buat entry… penat tau mengarang kat umah.. panjang lak tuh..